(photo credit: Jenny Rosenberg) It’s been a heck of a few weeks. I haven’t had time to blog, write, or do nearly anything because of the overwhelming presence of Crew. First, last weekend, our older daughter’s team rowed at the Southwest Junior Regional Championships near Sacramento. This was the big kahuna, the race(s) that would determine if their lightweight boat would go to Nationals. This is like the playoffs. The ones who win get to move on, and everyone else is done. She really, really wanted to go to Nationals for the final event of her high school rowing career. Her boat has spoken, dreamed, tasted, fought for, worked out for, nothing else all year. You could hear the echoes of that word — “Nationals. Nationals” in every conversation they had. They wanted it SO SO badly. But they had many obstacles and frustrations over the past month, and it wasn’t clear whether their dream was going to come true or not.
Then the big weekend came. My daughter had a big obstacle that turned huge, and worrisome. I fretted for her, I fretted for her boat, and their dreams. I paced and wept and wrung my hands. But finally, they pulled it out. It all came together. In the second-to-last race of the weekend, when everyone else was packing up to go home, they did it. They qualified. You know, I’ve never been much of a sports mom until now. I’ve never reallllly understood those words, the thrill of victory, the agony of defeat. But I felt them down to my bones last weekend as I paced at the shoreline.
My job as volunteer travel coordinator of the team kicked into high gear. The great news is that 28 rowers from Oakland Strokes qualified to go to the US Rowing Youth National Championships in Cincinnati in June. But it meant about 500 extra emails piling into my inbox as I worked out the details for each of those kids and their families.
The kids are seriously training now. Sometimes twice-daily practices. New oars (see blisters, above). Maybe a newer, lighter boat. They’re on their way. Some people might think what she’s doing is crazy, it’s extreme, it’s risky and whatever. But I swear, this sport has given her so much that I will be grateful for the rest of my life. This is a girl with so much energy and passion and potential for drama, that it could have so easily been channeled into things that were not so great for her. Instead she has spent the last two years passionately engaged, focused, committed, responsible. She has made deep, deep friendships. She has been tested a million ways and learned things that will serve her forever.
Some people might look at those hands and say, how can you do that, but I just say thank you.
May 17, 2008 at 3:18 pm
Welcome back! It’s great to know that it’s the intensity of life, not its problems, that’s kept you from your keyboard. (What a contrast to your last post, and that long-gone unscheduled weekend!)
May 17, 2008 at 5:20 pm
Woo-HOO!!! Congratulations to your daughter – and good on you, mama, for being the #1 fan!!
May 17, 2008 at 6:36 pm
wowee look at that hand! it speaks so much for her achievements.
my father once told me that achievement (and a sense of achievement) is one of the most important elements of life.
May 18, 2008 at 2:25 am
My husband started rowing when he was in high school, he won nationals at that time….he has won nationals a whole lot of times since, and now, 35 years later he still loves the sport, he is still in fantastic shape, he still derives great joy from it, both rowing in singles and in a team, as a member of a crew and as a coach….I hope that your daughter gets as much out of the sport as he has…it is a great one.
(I’ve been in a single once, and I fell out…he was horrified. I’m more of a sailor girl.)
He says that Peter Gabriel’s “the feeling begins” sounds like a rowing race to him.
Good luck to her in the nationals. Either way it will be an experience she will never forget, and will always value.
Love your blog, even if I do usually lurk.
May 18, 2008 at 7:22 am
Wow. Tears in my eyes. Thank you for this beautiful update.
May 18, 2008 at 8:39 am
Oreneta, that is so cool about your husband! And you know, if I ever got in a single I would totally fall out.
I do think that Nationals will be great no matter what happens, because even if you come in tenth or whatever, you can say, I rowed in the tenth fastest boat in the country. Which is so amazing.